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Comment on eBay obsession: Vintage suitcases by Phantom Lady

Phantom Lady — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 22:50:50 +0000

Always travel in style with vintage (albeit heavy) luggage! Thank goodness for Smarte Carte!!!!!

Comment on eBay obsession: Vintage suitcases by Peggy

Peggy — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 03:59:55 +0000

I’m lucky enough to have traveled w/ my mom’s 1960s American Tourister Tiara luggage and although it’s heavy, it can take quite the beating. I’ve sat on it to get it closed when I’ve filled it with books and I never worry about how the handlers toss it around. A totally chic and worthwhile investment

Comment on Using my network to help me get things done by Slow and steady wins the race | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Slow and steady wins the race | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 16:24:25 +0000

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Comment on Get out of your house and meet someone by D

Mon, 23 Mar 2009 20:28:58 +0000

I’ll claim it! I coined that phrase… (not really)

Comment on UPDATED: Yep, still the “other.” Not that I needed confirmation. by Melanie

Melanie — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 12:00:57 +0000

For the win!

Comment on Weekend excursion, part 1: Getting there is the hardest part. by Weekend excursion, part 2: Being there is the best part. | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Tue, 10 Mar 2009 06:04:26 +0000

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Comment on UPDATED: Yep, still the “other.” Not that I needed confirmation. by Kendall

Kendall — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:54:59 +0000

Ha, you are all very kind

But Melanie, you are CLEARLY after my heart by mentioning any resemblance of me to our uber-fab First Lady!

Comment on UPDATED: Yep, still the “other.” Not that I needed confirmation. by Melanie

Melanie — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:30:01 +0000

Ditto.

Some people may even be mistaking you for Michelle Obama…let’s see…black: check. Tall: check. Stunning: check. Fashionable: check.

Comment on UPDATED: Yep, still the “other.” Not that I needed confirmation. by Ken

Ken — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 02:51:49 +0000

See, Glenn, that’s what I said. She’s gorgeous!

Comment on UPDATED: Yep, still the “other.” Not that I needed confirmation. by Glenn Pinckney II

Glenn Pinckney II — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:42:45 +0000

You ever think people look is because you’re a looker? haha

Comment on Decisions, decisions. Don’t rush me! (Don’t rush myself!) by Kendall

Kendall — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:51:27 +0000

Re-read above: It’s a good thing.

I’m lucky to have people in my life who care about what I’m doing, how I’m doing it, and when I’m getting it done.

So, thank you.

Comment on Weekend excursion, part 1: Getting there is the hardest part. by Will da Thrill

Will da Thrill — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:44:50 +0000

but of course… I’m really thinking about blogging now… I have A LOT of things I need to “express” especially right about now.

Comment on Weekend excursion, part 1: Getting there is the hardest part. by Kendall

Kendall — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:21:03 +0000

#, I’m really mad you called yourself “da Thrill.” You’re so funny

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by Will da Thrill

Will da Thrill — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:27:36 +0000

This was interesting to read. So true though that you never know where life is going to take you to meet the individuals that are in your life today. I almost forgot that you literally lived right across from me and especially at such a “diverse” university (hey did we ever discuss the “new” Ms. Mason at Homecoming?) you would think the “coloreds” would speak to each other more often and more in depth. Regardless, although you may 2 or 300 miles away you are always there when you need to be and I hope I am the same for you. Thanks my friend.

Comment on If you die, your Facebook page will taunt your family forever. by Will da Thrill

Will da Thrill — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:13:24 +0000

Wow yeah this sucks! Remind me to give u my password before I pass. lol yeah I know its a bit cliche lol

Comment on Weekend excursion, part 1: Getting there is the hardest part. by Will da Thrill

Will da Thrill — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:08:46 +0000

Nice post. Very accurate and yes it did feel like u never left. I finally found where you are posting.

Comment on Decisions, decisions. Don’t rush me! (Don’t rush myself!) by Glenn Pinckney II

Glenn Pinckney II — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 09:10:56 +0000

Love the blog as usual. I feel sorry for that for guy who keeps bugging you.

Comment on Using my network to help me get things done by Decisions, decisions. Don’t rush me! (Don’t rush myself!) | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Mon, 02 Mar 2009 09:05:07 +0000

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Comment on I could have never met my best friends by D

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:47:56 +0000

Another one: You hate to pay for parking… I will valet in a heartbeat… ha!

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by D

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:44:21 +0000

Hmmmm…. for the record, I believe we have more differences than similarities. We have the common similarities: black, women, tall, outgoing, beautiful need I go on? But we have some GREAT differences that are close to polar opposite. You’re athletic… I might run in the rain IF I don’t have an umbrella. You are in tune with your creativity, I am REALLY close to square (its okay for me to say it). You are from all over the US… I am from Texas. I could go on, but it is safe to say that I find them completely refreshing. I miss ya!

Comment on How to write quick and easy thank you notes by Hate it or love it, always acknowledge and thank the gift-giver | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Thu, 26 Feb 2009 05:42:23 +0000

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Comment on Dinner party conversation turns toward the octuplets by Constance

Constance — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:17:44 +0000

First off, NO that is NOT a responsible plan for raising a family! Her friends and family did not get a vote on Ms. Suleman bringing 14 children into this world (BY CHOICE) and she cannot not reasonably believe that these people will want to be responsible for helping her raise them either.

There are so many people that are in the wrong here. Ms. Suleman, Her Mother, The hack they are calling a Fertility Doctor….

It is morally reprehensible for any fertility doctor to transfer (not implant…Embryos that are transferred, implant in the uterus days after a transfer) that many embryos into any woman, period! As someone who has looked into numerous fertility treatments, read dozens of books on the subject, and yes…even joined a message board or two…. No good and well respected doctor would transfer that many embryos into a woman who has had live births before.

The validity of the clinic Octo-Mom frequented is of major question. This site shows their statistics (https://www.sartcorsonline.com/rptCSR_PublicMultYear.aspx?ClinicPKID=2400). Let’s put it this way, the numbers are so bad that I would take my chances with a turkey baster.

Anyway, I don’t believe the government should be able to dictate who has kids, who doesn’t (unless there is good reason and a judge says so) or how many you can have. However, I do believe that if you are bringing life into this world, you should be able to take care of them by YOURSELF, without any help (other than your significant other). Yes people fall on hard time and need assistance. This woman put her self in that position knowing full well she would never be able to afford them (masters degree or not) on her own. She banked on these kids being a circus attraction even before they were born.

The real victims in this whole tragedy are all 14 children.

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by jenn

jenn — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 02:15:23 +0000

kendall, you must go, if only so i can vicariously attend through you. oh to be so close to new york and NOT go to a party? you will love it once you get there.

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:47:39 +0000

tune in with yourself closer to the event time. Some things I ask are:
who’s gonna be there?
do I have the energy to invest?
am I rested and nourished enough to have extra for others?
at first glance, does it feel REALLY good to say YES?

You’ll know just what to do and when to do it:)

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by Kendall

Kendall — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:40:26 +0000

Showing up is reeeeally hard sometimes, Dyana. A fellow CFCer is hosting a party at a lounge in NYC in a couple of weeks and while it’d be great to see him and meet some new folks, I’m really struggling about whether or not to go. It’s so far away. Other factors, too.

I’ll keep your advice (and possibly my own?) in mind and try to convince myself to attend.

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:24:13 +0000

you got it right, Kendall: SHOWING UP–even when you don’t feel like it; even when you’d rather hole up; especially when some part of you says GO!

So, GO, people–show up for your people–there’s GOLD out there!

Comment on Dude, what gives? An examination of the hoot-n-holler phenomenon by ynggftdandblk

ynggftdandblk — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 13:39:48 +0000

um, most guys do that because they are afraid to approach women on a personal level, they don’t wanna be rejected, or embarrased, so they show their interest through random hoots, hollers, honks, or grunts…

Comment on I could have never met my best friends by ynggftdandblk

ynggftdandblk — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 13:36:18 +0000

I almost didn’t meet my best friend either! I met him in Gospel Choir, and a week later He saw me passed out drunk in the middle of a party. instead of judging me, he helped me get home. We’ve been close ever since… wow how the times pass. I see him once every few months. Distance and friendship suck!

Comment on eBay obsession: Vintage brooches by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 15:47:52 +0000

love your eye for beauty! and love a bit-o-bling, ANYTIME! Keep style alive, K!

Dyana

Comment on Dude, what gives? An examination of the hoot-n-holler phenomenon by Glenn Pinckney II

Glenn Pinckney II — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 22:05:00 +0000

I can honestly say I haven’t commited this act of stupidity. I do have boys that have, and most of them in relationships. I retrospect I guess they did it most of the time to be just silly, come to think of it everytime I have been around guys that did it it was to be just plain silly and just crackin’ up having a good time. I am not making excuses for their actions, just giving one explanation that I have come to.

Comment on What does one do with 3,669 unread emails? by Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 16:32:53 +0000

Are we talking Gmail, here? Gmail lets you see 100 emails at a time, and select all unread with one click. A quick scroll-through will tell you if you’re missing anything important, then with one more click, you can mark as read.

Good luck!

Comment on What does one do with 3,669 unread emails? by Kendall

Kendall — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 15:58:21 +0000

One thing I did was archive my Daily Candy emails and create a folder for them. Now I’m just trying to decide to with the remaining 3,075 emails in my inbox.

The thought of scrolling through 799 pages of emails to mark them as read doesn’t sound so hot. Perhaps more archiving with labels and folders?

Comment on Updates: Accountability and rehashing the past by Katelyn

Katelyn — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 14:06:46 +0000

You are too sweet. It makes me feel good to hear that people had fun.

Comment on What does one do with 3,669 unread emails? by Melanie

Melanie — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:07:37 +0000

Hi, Kendall! I’ve been enjoying your blog. Unread emails really bother me, too, so I always click “select unread=>mark as read” after I’ve read the important stuff and before I go on about my business. Pat, on the other hand, has an unread email total rivaling yours. It drives me nuts.

If I were you (or if I were allowed to putz around in Pat’s email), I’d go through page by page and mass select all the unread ones, marking them as read. If you actually scroll through before marking as read, you can be sure that you’re not missing anything important (but you probably got the important stuff on the first pass anyway).

I don’t mind letting extraneous emails just sit there, as long as they’re not “unread.” When they’re in bold type, with a big number, I feel like I ought to read them, which would be a huge drain on my time! I can ignore them once I’ve marked them as read.

Good luck!

Comment on Using my network to help me get things done by Updates: Accountability and rehashing the past | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Fri, 23 Jan 2009 05:51:51 +0000

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Comment on Tool Academy: You have got to be kidding me. by Kendall

Kendall — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 23:26:49 +0000

Q, I think there are self-esteem issues are on the women’s side, definitely. I think it’s also a victim mentality - “he’s mistreating me - change him” - when the reality is that they’re allowing themselves to be mistreated because they stay with these jerks.

But do you really think it’s low self-esteem for the guys? I think it’s more selfishness than anything.

Any other men feeling brave enough to chime in on this?

Comment on Tool Academy: You have got to be kidding me. by Quincy

Quincy — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 23:06:11 +0000

The men have low self-esteem and they prey on women with low self-esteem, as well. The men need a woman who makes them feel more powerful because they can’t handle a woman who can stand for her own. What better to feed that need than a woman who will settle for anything.

…but you’re smart, so I’m sure you know all this already

Comment on From the road: My mother’s hair is purple and other fashion disasters by Glenn Pinckney II

Glenn Pinckney II — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 02:08:30 +0000

yeah, you’re mom is looker.

Comment on Being 9th in the nation deserves a mention by Getting the hell out of Dodge for a wedding | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Wed, 14 Jan 2009 06:35:14 +0000

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Comment on eBay obsession: Vintage suitcases by Kendall

Kendall — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:41:45 +0000

Maybe if I’m a good girl this whole year, Santa will bring me a a personal valet for Christmas Wouldn’t that be lovely!

Dyana, any obsessions of your own?

Comment on eBay obsession: Vintage suitcases by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:11:54 +0000

I can understand the obsession, Kendall! Now, you will have to get obsessed about a personal valet to carry them for you:)

Comment on Get out of your house and meet someone by Q.Ledbetter

Q.Ledbetter — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 07:17:18 +0000

MEEEE!!!!!

high-five for friendship

Comment on Using my network to help me get things done by Ilise Benun

Ilise Benun — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 21:55:10 +0000

Please keep me posted on your progress so we can blog about it on the http://www.CreativeFreelancerBlog.com and inspire other creative freelancers to do the same. We are all in this together!

Comment on Using my network to help me get things done by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 06:23:12 +0000

YES, Accountability comes in all forms–take ‘em where you can get them. Please keep us updated on how you do it and how it goes!

Way to inspire.

Comment on I’m not used to being the “other” by Get out of your house and meet someone | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Wed, 07 Jan 2009 06:32:06 +0000

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Comment on Reciprocation is essential to growing and maintaining successful relationships by Options for the friend who extends | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined

Options for the friend who extends | Social Tools for the Socially Inclined — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 07:27:34 +0000

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Comment on Stop being the biggest obstacle in your life by Dyana Valentine

Dyana Valentine — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 18:55:33 +0000

YES, Kendall: you got it right. Sometimes the simple act of leaning out over that cliff (with safety equipment: like a mentor, board of advisors and your own strengths) is the ONLY thing you need to do. Just LEAN.

Check out my videos, if you are so inclined, on getting going and keeping it up on: http://www.youtube.com/dyanavalentine. Or, post your OWN if you have great ideas for how we can all get out of our own ways.

Dyana

Comment on Stop being the biggest obstacle in your life by Glenn Pinckney II

Glenn Pinckney II — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 09:34:55 +0000

I tell you what, this blog has quickly become one of my favorites. This latest entry by far is the best, in my opinion.

Comment on Got mentor? How to get a mentor and learn from their experience by Peleg Top

Peleg Top — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 05:13:34 +0000

hey there-
thanks for the plug and the cool blog post.
hope to see you at the next CFC in San Diego!

To your success,

Peleg Top

Comment on Highly recommended: Pagoda Bistro & Bar by Karen Dow

Karen Dow — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:09:53 +0000

Ok. So I read a few more of your blogs. lovesit! I cannot tell a lie. Our opinions differ on Pagoda. so what. Good luck in NJ and your “staff” is adorable. Happy early New Year!